What Happens When People Do Not Communicate Effectively?

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• Issues remain unclarified (Proverbs 18:17).

• Wrong ideas are uncovered.

• Conflicts and misunderstandings are unresolved (Matt 5:23-26).

• Confusion and disorder occur (1 Cor.  14:33, 40).

• Wise decision-making is thwarted (Proverbs 18:13).

• The development of deep unity and intimacy is hindered (Amos 3:3).

• Boredom, discontentment, and frustration develop.

• Interpersonal problems pile up, and barriers become higher and wider.

• The temptation to look for someone more exciting occurs.

• We do not really get to know each other.

• We do not receive spiritual help from each other.

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Deepening Family Communications

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Do you ever struggle in communicating well with others and especially in your family? Here is a message on Deepening Family Communications. I hope it will help you. Blessings.

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Meditates on the Word Day and Night

Psalm-WS Plumer“Another positive sign of a renewed man is that he meditates in the law of the LORD day and night. ‘As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.’

Vain thoughts lodge in all ungodly men. But the righteous hate sinful imaginings. What the wicked would be ashamed to act or speak out, the righteous is ashamed to think or desire.

Yet the mind of the righteous is full of activity. He meditates. The power of reflection chiefly distinguishes a man from a brute.

The habit of reflection chiefly distinguishes a wise man from a fool. Pious reflection on God’s word greatly distinguishes a saint from a sinner.

Without meditation grace never thrives, prayer is languid, praise dull, and religious duties unprofitable.

Yet to flesh and blood without divine grace this is an impossible duty.

It is easier to take a journey of a thousand miles than to spend an hour in close, devout, profitable thought on divine things.

Like prayer (Luke 18:7), meditation is to be pursued day and night, not reluctantly, but joyously, not merely in God’s house, or on the Lord’s day, but whenever other duties do not forbid.

Nor does the true child of God slight part of divine truth. He loves it all.

A saint is therefore described by his ‘meditating in the law of God day and night,’ which is the natural and necessary effect of his delight in it.”

–by William Plumer

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You Stand in the Righteousness of Christ

Thomas Brooks - Works“Though men may accuse you, judge and condemn you, yet know for your support, that you are acquitted before the throne of God. However you may stand in the eyes of men, as full of nothing but faults, persons made up of nothing but sin, yet are you clear in the eyes of God.

God looks upon weak saints in the Son of His love, and sees them all lovely. They are as the tree of Paradise, ‘fair to his eye, and pleasant to his taste,’ Genesis 3:6.

Ah, poor souls! You are apt to look upon your spots and blots, and to cry out with the leper not only ‘Unclean, unclean!’ but ‘Undone, undone!’

Well, forever remember this, that your persons stand before God in the righteousness of Christ, upon which account you always appear, before the throne of God, without fault. You are all fair, and there is no spot in you.”

– by Thomas Brooks

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Do You Struggle with Anger?

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Do you struggle with anger, either in yourself or with others? Robert Jones has written an excellent book on anger that you might want to read if you struggle in this area.  In this book, he gives three fundamental principles to try to identify whether you have an anger Uprooting Angerproblem and whether your anger is righteous or not.  We all experience anger and express it in different ways. The mature believer, though, must make sure his anger is not violating Scripture. In James 1:19-20 we are reminded of the following: “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.” So how do we do that? How do we differentiate between sinful anger and righteous anger?

 

The first principle is, “It reacts against actual sin (as biblically defined).” Is there a biblical standard, an objective standard that has been broken here? Can you point to the teaching of Scripture to show that what angers you also angers God? Is Scripture clear on the issue?

Secondly, to determine whether your anger is right or not ask yourself the following question—What’s your motive? Righteous anger “focuses on God and His concerns (not me and my concerns).” Are you angry because you are offended or because God is offended? There are times I get angry over some standard I believe is broken. The challenge though is whether it is mine or God’s. “They’re not showing me respect.”  You’re not showing me love” “ You’re not treating me the right way.” See how the standard has become me—it’s all about me.  We motivate my anger. When your anger is driven by yourself, your interests or your self-promotion, you are not on safe ground.  If you could find a biblical standard, but not a biblical motive, then you must reevaluate your anger. The next element is what is motivating the anger. Whose standard has been broken? Yours or God’s?

The third principle is that righteous anger “coexists with other godly qualities and expresses itself in godly ways.” This last criterion is focused on how you display your anger. Do you show Christlike character in your anger? See, it’s one thing to be angry over something. It’s another thing to say I’m doing it for God’s glory and others’ good. But now if I attack you, and I become sinful in the way I’m acting, my righteous anger has now become sinful anger.

To be sure you are handling your anger in a God-honoring way take counsel with yourself. See, most of us react, right? We get angry. We react. Some of us overreact. We get defensive and or overly emotional. We let our emotions drive us. We lose control. We get impulsive, and say, “Okay, do you know what? Even though I acted in this way, it was because you did this to me.” We blame somebody else, right? We react.

What God requires of us is to respond in God-honoring ways, to be thoughtful, reasonable, responsible, and not to lose control, but to gain control. When you do that, you’re going to listen. You’re going to learn. What God is going to do through you is to help you confront people in God-honoring ways. You will be abiding by the wisdom found in Proverbs 29:11 “A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.”

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Essentials for Spiritual Growth

As we begin a new year, perhaps you may want to evaluate your spiritual life in light of these biblical imperatives.

Please answer each question below. Also, please look up each of the passages of Scripture. If there are a number of areas that you are lacking, do not be discouraged. Be resilient. Great habits do not happen in a day. Commit, by the power of the Holy Spirit, to making these disciplines habitual in your life.

  • Are you diligent in learning to handle accurately the Word of God (2 Timothy 2:15)?

 

  • Do you consistently examine yourself in light of God’s Word instead of comparing yourself with the lives or expectations of others (1 Samuel 16:7; Isaiah 55:8-11; Romans 3:23; 2 Corinthians 10:12; and Hebrews 4:12)?

 

  • Are you a doer of the Word? Being a doer of the Word requires the continual hearing of God’s Word and walking in it to receive the blessing of the Lord (Deuteronomy 11:26-28; Romans 10:17; Hebrews 5:14; James 1:22-25). The Word is entirely adequate for every area of life as it teaches, reproves, corrects, trains, equips you so that you may mature in Christ (2 Timothy 3:16-17).

 

  • Do you deny yourself by putting off your natural self-centeredness to follow the Lord Jesus Christ (Matthew 10:38-39; Luke 9:23-24)?

 

  • Do you seek to please God in all things (John 8:29; 2 Corinthians 5:9; Ephesians 6:6-7; Colossians 1:10; 1 Thessalonians 2:4, 4:1; Hebrews 13:21; 1 John 3:22)?

 

  • Are you a person of prayer? Continual prayer, with thanksgiving, leads to God’s peace guarding your heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:6-7; 1 Thessalonians 5:17-18).

 

  • Do you place the welfare of others ahead of your own, thus following the example of the Lord Jesus Christ (Matthew 20:25-28; Romans 15:1-3; and Philippians 2:3-8)?

 

  • Do you love others in a biblical way (1 Corinthians 13:4-8a)? By loving in this manner, you will follow the example of our Lord Jesus Christ and will become known as His disciple (John 13:34-35; 15:12-13).

 

  • Are you faithfully using your spiritual gift(s) for God’s glory and for the benefit of others (Romans 12:3-8; Ephesians 4:1-16; and 1 Peter 4:10-11)?

 

  • Do you regularly worship the Lord, remaining in fellowship and in ministry with other believers (Psalm 29:1-2, 122:1; John 4:23-24; Hebrews 10:24-25; 1 Peter 2:5; and 1 John 1:7)?

 

  •  Are you ready at all times to give testimony for the hope that is within you (1 Peter 3:15), giving glory to the Lord with your life (Matthew 5:16), seeking to reconcile others to God, and discipling them to walk in His ways (Matthew 28:19-20; 2 Corinthians 5:18-20)?
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